About The Learner

Healing comes through processing, and this is where I'm making space to do so. It doesn't matter if anyone ever finds or reads any of this. Putting my stories down in writing helps me understand myself better and continue my journey, living this life... learning as I go... loving better... and growing all the time.

Organizational Tools for the New Year: Communicating Time, Schedules, and Calendars to Neurodivergent Kids

Communication can be so, so hard. Countless books are dedicated to supporting communication; in couples, families, corporations, and beyond. One way our family tackles the communication struggle is through communicating our schedule - often and in multiple ways. This can be so helpful for our kids - espescially with multiple neurodivergencies that can make abstract concepts, like time, difficult to grasp. It feels like time is one of the basic concepts of life, and should be easier to grasp than it is. I think back to the Mitch Album book the Timekeeper... a great read where "Father Time" is punished for trying to measure God's greatest gift. And then to John Mark Comer's the Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, where he quotes the Roman comic playwright Plautus: "The gods confound the man who first found out how to distinguish hours! Confound him too who in this place set up a sundial to cut and hack my days so wretchedly into small portions!" I often wish we could go back to days where rather than our lives being ruled by a clock, our time was ordered by the natural rhythms of the earth. Rather than schedules and appointments based on hours and minutes, we'd wake when the sun rises, eat when hunger comes, work while the sun is up, and sleep when the sky grows dark. But alas, our employers and doctors and family and others we interact with probably wouldn't appreciate that system very much. =) So how does our family handle timing, appointments, and the like? Espescially in a world where being more than 10 minutes late can mean you forfeit your scheduled appointment? Well, I can't say we're often or ever on time, but we do consistently show up where we're expected, albeit a few minutes late. To [...]

2025-01-01T18:09:51-05:00January 1, 2025|

Organizational Tools for the New Year: Wellness Tracker Printable

I created a printable 2025 Wellness Goals Tracker for myself (buy on Etsy here!) and wanted to share in case anyone else finds it helpful! I will not be doing all of these every day - rather, I created this to help me stay on task with the things I'm already doing well, and adding in a couple things I want to improve on. My goal is not to check every box every week in every category, but rather to track my consistency. For example - Weights - I'd like to see myself doing 3-5 times a week. Quiet time - for me - I need this daily! In my quiet time, I write down 5 things I'm grateful for each day, spend time in prayer, and reading my bible. Protein - I plan to track my grams (see video) at least several days a week. Walk - I'd like to do this every day, but may track minutes each day - whether 5 minutes on the treadmill is all I could squeeze in, or a 30 minute walk, or more! I hope you find this helpful! Feel free to message me for customizations =) Here's the link to my Etsy listing: https://azcreativeworks.etsy.com/listing/1850881373/2025-printable-wellness-goal-tracker-pdf

2025-01-01T18:04:57-05:00December 29, 2024|

Gram

My earliest memories of my grandma are from when I was probably around 3 years old. I'm unsure whether I remember these firsthand or have seen them in home videos over the years, but I can vividly picture the orchard out behind the home they lived in. I'd ride in a trailer she pulled behind her lawnmower, and we'd get out near the trees and walk around a bit, sometimes meandering into the woods. She was always pruning and weeding and that trailer behind the mower, when not filled with grandkids, was filled with trimmings for the burn pit.  I remember playing gnip gnop in the basement of their home, and having sleepovers. They had a waterbed, and I couldn't get over how cool it was to have a bed full of water. The precious moments knick-knacks on their mirrored headboard shelves were my favorite to play with. I remember the decor, especially the placement of two pieces that eventually were passed down to my husband and I in our first home... a big, heavy orange hide-a-bed couch, and a bathroom cabinet with wheat stamped into the tin on the door. My memories go on to when they moved 'up north'. That period of my life, from around age 5 to age 13, we lived a few hours south of my Grandparents, and there were frequent weekend visits and lots of driving. I'd come visit on the weekends, and I remember the rhythmic movement of keys in the ignition, her snoopy keychain clinking against her elongated metal circle - I think it said something about being a Grandma on it. I looked forward to my time with my grandparents, escaping the city for the country, where I was free to roam. We'd often stop at the buckhorn saloon for pizza [...]

2023-08-18T00:19:29-04:00May 7, 2023|

A Poem for the Brave Lion

Even Stronger   Sometimes I wish There was a magic button I'd press it and your troubles would subside It pains me to see your pain I don't want you to hurt   Sometimes I wish You could you yourself the way I see you A beautiful soul, a breathtaking young woman   Sometimes I wish I had strength to not wish easy on you I want to guard Shield Protect your heart   But I know that easy isn't worth it Easy teaches nothing   A wildfire takes out a forest New life sprouts from ashes Just like you will emerge from these depths Even stronger

2023-08-17T22:52:28-04:00March 17, 2023|

Time

Time - it's what we want most but use worst. - William Penn William Penn lived from 1644 - 1718, per Wikipedia. How much more applicable may this be today, then when he said it? I can't imagine what he'd think of the many "timesucks"... social media, video games, TV and movies, etc .... I'm spending a bit of time creating this blog. I see it as an investment into my future. Why? Because when I put this down "on paper", if you will, it reinforces what I've learned. It's an investment into my brain. A huge piece of my journey has been making sure I'm taking accountability for my part of my story, understanding that some things are out of my control and I will feel "wronged", and I may "wrong" others. But what is in my control now? How can I move forward? When a situation starts to give me great anxiety I like to think, what's within my power? What is under my control? In my life, I’ve had seasons where many things felt outside my control… others where I’ve had a false sense of control… and others where control was ripped away from us at the drop of a hat (pandemic anyone?)… but on my average day, I can look at things within my control and release my worry over things that are outside of my control. When I handle what is within my control, and release that which is not, I have peace that I have done my part in any given situation. Sometimes I want peace but we don't want to do anything about it. I don't have the time, the money, the resources whatever they may be, to enact the change I desire. I've got to have peace with that. Someone else will [...]

2024-12-29T22:54:18-05:00January 29, 2023|
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